With Facebook becoming more and more toxic on more than one level, I too decided to drop some thoughts here and see if any of my old friends in this virtual space pipe up in response.
My life has gone through so much in the past few years, and especially in 2019. In 2019 alone I formed a poly triad, dealt with it breaking up — resulting in my leaving my partner of 17+ years — started therapy, got laid off from a job I really liked, found another after a few months of struggle and nearly going broke, cheated on one of my triad partners with the other (long story, but I am holding myself accountable), asked all my housemates to move out, and am living partnerless for the first time in 25 years.
I've had a bit of stress over all this. I haven't always dealt with it very well. Therapy has helped immensely — I recommend doing the work of finding a therapist you like (I got lucky with a recommendation, and if you're in the SF Bay Area, I would recommend them as well).
Right now I'm enjoying my new job, doing reasonably well at it, having fun with one of the arms of the triad (we're not partners and can't be due to some significant differences, but we're happy to be lovers) and re-discovering what brings me joy. It's been a rocky path, but I'm starting to get my feet moving despite the maelstrom.
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